by Cynthia Bischoff | May 16, 2015 | Heartliving
Your partner doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. Often we think that if we can just change this or that about our partner, the relationship would finally work. Does this sound familiar?
Some common-sense guidelines can help you to improve your relationship. These guidelines are based on effective principles of communication and should be practiced by both of you.
- Maintain a friendship as well as a love relationship. Most couples who stay together do so because of a sense of friendship and respect that exists long after the romantic sparks fade. Friends generally like and accept each other as they genuinely are.
- Don’t expect your partner to satisfy all of your relationship needs. Take good care of yourself. Maintain healthy friendships outside of your primary relationship, and you will be less apt to feel that you need your partner to “complete” you.
- Practice active listening. Sometimes all your partner wants you to do is just listen. So listen carefully; then paraphrase back to your partner what you believe you heard him or her say. This may feel awkward at first, but it greatly helps to keep the communication clear. Talking over each other or not acknowledging what we’ve heard causes monologues rather than dialogues.
- Know what you do want and communicate that clearly. We sometimes get stuck in repeating what we don’t want or like and don’t communicate clearly what we do want. We can also use arguments as a way of getting attention or engaging in drama. Find a more productive way to be in relationship.
- Fight fairly. The language we use during a conflict is critical to our relationship. Calling each other names and blaming each other will dissolve trust and respect faster than anything else. And if this has already happened, you can commit to starting over now. Remember “up until now”!
- Commit to change. Know that a healthy relationship is one that continues to evolve. Establish regular conversations with your partner to be sure important issues are being addressed and understood.
- Soften your heart. Of all the tips, perhaps this is most important of all!
For more strategies on creating effective, loving relationships, attend the Heartliving “Power & Love” Workshop on May 30, 2015, at the Virginia Beach Resort & Conference Center, Virginia Beach, VA. Click “Register” for more details and to sign-up: REGISTER
by Cynthia Bischoff | May 2, 2015 | Heartliving
Issues and lessons of power and love play out during our entire lifetime. Improve your relationships by attending Heartliving Workshop “Power & Love” on Satuday, May 30, 2015, at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel and Conference Center, Virginia Beach, VA.
During this insightful event, open to both men and women, we will discuss important dynamics that play out in relationships and that affect communication, power, and love. Topics include:
- relationship dynamics and types of partners
- elemental love styles
- why we often choose whom we do
- issues of co-dependency
- how our wounds and coping mechanisms are formed
- boundary setting
- asking for what we need in a relationship.
This incredible “eye-opening” material is a must for understanding yourself in all your relationships!
Enrollment is limited, so ensure your space by registering now. Click here: Register
by Cynthia Bischoff | Apr 4, 2015 | Heartliving
Most of us have hectic days that are often crammed with too much productivity. Your work and general rushed lifestyle can take a toll on your body, mind, and spirit. Incorporating relaxing music into your life can be a beneficial way to unwind and release tension and stress.
Whether you listen to music in the evening to unwind or before going to bed, choosing the right music can encourage deep relaxation. For example, music that has a slow, soothing beat can calm your body into a synchronized state with the beat.
Different types of music can have different effects, but in general, instrumental music is most helpful to induce calm that leads to restful sleep:
- The harp can be very melodic and can reduce stress and tension.
- Sounds of nature, often deep and slow rhythms, can be very calming.
- The sounds of water and waves can create a rhythmic state.
- Flutes and chimes can be soothing and relaxing.
- The right classical music in general can help produce a tranquil state.
Soothing music can be beneficial for anyone at any age. Babies respond very well to soft melodies. In general, soft, slow music induces the autonomous nervous system to slow down breathing and heart rate, bringing the body to a more relaxed state. And with the body and mind relaxed, feelings of anxiety and depression are lessened. Enjoy!
by Cynthia Bischoff | Mar 21, 2015 | Heartliving
We came into this world to learn to love and to know that we are love, and nothing is perhaps more powerful than heart connections. Yet intimate relationships can be complex and require attention if two people are to grow together into more intimate union and love.
Delve deeper into relationships by attending a new one-day Heartliving workshop, “Power & Love.” During this wonderful and powerful day we’ll cover topics including:
- Relationship dynamics and types of partners
- Elemental love styles
- Why we often choose whom we do
- Issues of co-dependency
- How our wounds and coping mechanisms are formed
- Boundary setting
- Asking for what we need in a relationship
This incredible “eye-opening” material is a must for understanding yourself in all your relationships!
“Power and Love,” taught by Dr. Cynthia Bischoff, will be held on May 30, 2015, from 9 a.m. – 5 p.m., at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel & Conference Center on the Chesapeake Bay!
Ready to Live and Love more deeply? Register Now!
by Cynthia Bischoff | Mar 14, 2015 | Heartliving
Are you at ease in your body? It is believed that the more at ease you are in your body–that is, the more you treat it with respect and care–the more at ease you’ll be in your life. The state of your body and your connection to movement and peace often closely reflect the state of your life.
How can you ensure a healthy relationship to your body? Paying attention to the language of your symptoms, honoring a relationship to movement, loving your body and honoring your spirit are a few ways to connect with your body. Here are other pointers:
Your body reflects what is happening in your life, and you body tends to get sick more easily when you are not present in it.
- A commonly held perspective in integrative medicine is that the body gets sick to get your attention, and your symptoms provide a type of language about what is going on with your spirit.
- Healthy people usually have a loving relationship with their bodies and often feel inspired.
- Life is movement, so when you’re feeling in pain or in some way disconnected from your body and spirit, one of the most effective integration tools is through movement.
- Movement releases and helps energize the body, creating a new sense of aliveness in the body and mind.
- The body, mind, and emotions are interrelated, and deeply negative emotional states can cause enormous stress in the body–contributing to disease.
- The body is a living, breathing organism in which every cell is aware of every other cell—constantly conveying information through numerous communication pathways.
- It can be healing to engage in bodywork and meditation, particularly to practice “listening” to your body.
Want to learn more about mind-body connection and healing? Then enroll in Heartliving’s March 21st Seminar: “Healing through Body-Mind Awareness.”
This wonderful workshop will inform and inspire you with information, exercises and tools related to your body-mind connection. You will learn:
- Basic Ideas and Principles of Body-Mind Connection
- How Your Body Speaks Your Mind
- Eastern and Western Views on the Body-Mind and Healing
- The Body Beautiful: Parts of the Body and Their Meanings
- The Energetics of Healing & Symptoms and their Intuitive Meanings
- Research Facts about the Body and Healing
- What a Person Can Do to Heal
“Healing through Mind-Body Awareness”, a one day workshop taught by Dr. Cynthia Bischoff, will be held on March 21, 2015, at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel & Conference Center, Virginia Beach, VA (on the beautiful Chesapeake Bay)!
Workshop Fee: $140.00
Program Fee includes: Course Materials and Lunch
CEU’s—Continuing Education Units—are available through Old Dominion University for this program.
The workshop is just 1 week away– Register Now!
