by Cynthia Bischoff | May 21, 2017 | Heartliving
Understanding and harnessing the principles of the body-mind connection can assist you on your journey to healing and wholeness. Join me on August 30, 2017, from 6:00-8:00 p.m., at Sentara Virginia Beach General Hospital, Virginia Beach, VA, for a new seminar, Healing Wisdom: Understanding the Body-Mind Connection. Through lecture and discussion I will teach you more about:
- Integrative views of healing
- An understanding of human energy fields and centers
- Intuitive meanings of symptoms
- And the symbolic meanings of major parts of the body!
Don’t miss this engaging and informative seminar, sponsored by Deepak Talreja, MD, Cardiovascular Associates!
The seminar fee is $25.00 and includes materials.
Spaces are limited and selling quickly.
If you’re ready to improve your life? Click: Register
by Cynthia Bischoff | May 14, 2017 | Heartliving
As young children, we held within our hearts the motherly feeling of knowing we would be okay. Who performed that role for you? It may have been your biological mother or “spiritual” mothers who have loved and mothered you in ways that cared for your soul. In some cases, not just your mother, but also other loving people helped you feel safe and loved, and inspired and motivated you to be your best self.
To our mothers and these wise and loving caregivers, we honor you on Mother’s Day!
Your Mother Is Always With You
Your mother is always with you…
She’s the whisper of the leaves
as you walk down the street.
She’s the smell of bleach
in your freshly laundered socks.
She’s the cool hand on your brow
when you’re not well.
Your mother lives inside your laughter.
She’s crystallized in every tear drop.
She’s the place you came from,
your first home…
She’s the map you follow
with every step that you take.
She’s your first love
and your first heart break…
and nothing on earth can separate you.
Not time, Not space…
Not even death…
will ever separate you
from your mother…
You carry her inside of you…
Author Unknown
by Cynthia Bischoff | May 7, 2017 | Heartliving
We formed our core relationship with ourselves and with life in early childhood based on the messages we received, the trauma we may have suffered, and the role modeling of the adults around us.
Co-dependent behavior (feeling the need to be connected to someone else in order to survive) is a pattern often developed in childhood to help a person to survive. Staying strongly connected to and/or attempting to control your caregivers may have been the only way you could feel safe.
This behavior may play out in your adult life as a need to feel connected to another person and a feeling that without that connection you may not survive. This may cause you to sacrifice your own growth in order to feel safe. It may cause you to feel the need to “please” people in your life in order to be approved.
As adults, we grow to understand that we are the only one who can “rescue,” truly approve, or reliably care-take ourselves. While there may be an Inner Child in us seeking love and care, we learn that there is an Inner Adult whom we can also develop who is capable of caring for us. In fact, we can contribute to the development of our Inner Adult by challenging the way in which we feel dependent upon others to meet our needs and by building our self-esteem.
This Inner Adult is a part of you that is capable of thinking well, stays in touch with reality, and is able to make wise choices by estimating the probability of consequences of certain acts. How do you strengthen your Inner Adult?
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Learn to trust and respect yourself. You can “course-correct” at any time by acting responsibly for your own life.
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Value yourself. Accept your desires for what they truly are and ask for what you need, not only from yourself but from others in your relationships.
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Maintain healthy boundaries. Do not under-function or over-function in your relationships with others.
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Enjoy spending time alone. Understand that being “alone” does not mean “lonely”; in fact, the word “alone” is derived from two words “all one.” You can feel complete when alone.
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Remind yourself of the times in which you cared well for yourself. Celebrate your successes in the past and look forward to standing by your own side now and in the future.
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Give yourself your own approval. Ultimately, you teach others how to treat you through your own behavior toward yourself.
by Cynthia Bischoff | Apr 30, 2017 | Heartliving
Do you allow yourself to make “mistakes” realizing that we are all here to learn? Does your value as a person depend on what others think of you? Do you have trouble asking for favors and tend to apologize a lot?
Self-esteem can be defined as people’s overall evaluation or appraisal of themselves and their own self-worth. What influences this self-appraisal?
Each of us is born into a culture or set of shared ideas about our nature of reality and of right and wrong. Our learned beliefs can be empowering and encouraging, or they can be limiting. Most often, we go through life without challenging these beliefs.
As children, we are often taught to find meaning through attachments to others. While this can create relatedness to others, it can also encourage dependency and emptiness when alone.
There is also a cultural standard of beauty and acceptability that causes us to become conscious of how we look. Even though these standards are really artificial beliefs, we take them in as fact and usually apply them to ourselves.
Critically important to your self-esteem is not to retreat into a comparison of yourself based on societal standards. In fact, most people who have manifested their heart’s desire have NOT relied upon the need to fit the norm or to confine to others’ comfort zones.
Here are some tips for building self-esteem:
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Be able to speak of your accomplishments and shortcomings with honesty, knowing that you are worthy just as you are.
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Practice both giving and receiving with a level of comfort.
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Be more spontaneous and trusting of your opinions and abilities.
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Have integrity–walk your talk–be harmonious with what you say and do.
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Be open-minded about new ideas and experiences.
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Accept other people where they are, especially when their thoughts and behaviors don’t match yours.
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Laugh at yourself and others with grace. Humor will relax you so that you can be more the “real” you, and above all, you can enjoy this precious lifetime!
by Cynthia Bischoff | Apr 23, 2017 | Heartliving
We’re less than a week away from my new and much requested Heartliving seminar, Awakening & Enhancing Your Intuition!
Join me for this inspiring day! This one-day information-packed workshop will be held 9:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. on Saturday, April 29, 2017, at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel & Conference Center on the Chesapeake Bay.
During this session you will learn new concepts about accessing and working directly with your intuition. Through lecture about important universal information, exercises, tools (to include a beautiful Chakra Quartz Pendulum), and hypnotherapy to “enhance your intuition,” you will learn:
- Basic Ideas and Principles of Intuition;
- Exercises to Test Your Ability to Predict Outcomes and to Understand Your Own Strengths;
- Ways to Determine Your Personal Intuitive Symbols;
- Techniques for Enhancing Your Intuition and Quieting Your Mind to Access Intuition over Fear;
- How to Create and Use a “Diagnostic Room” in Your Mind;
- Participation in Hypnotherapy to Solidify the Room in Your Mind – to impress it for future reference;
- Ways to Awaken to the Power of Synchronicity and to Being in Flow;
- Understand “Dream Incubation” – how to let a solution emerge through a dream; and much more!
Program Fee: $165 (includes course materials, supplies, and food).
Conference space is limited. Your paid registration ensures that a space is held for you.
Ready to Enhance Your Life? Click Register
by Cynthia Bischoff | Apr 16, 2017 | Heartliving
Sleep is vital to our well-being, allowing us to remain healthy mentally as well as physically. Have you experienced difficulty with sleep patterns? Wondered how to handle insomnia?
I worked with a dream analyst for seven years and learned so much about not only the power of dreams and how to interpret them, but the importance of getting sound sleep!
Sleep requirements (the number of hours a person needs each night) are very individual, but research has shown that people who get 7-8 hours of sleep per night have less chance of having high blood pressure, heart disease, as well as anxiety and depression, among other health issues.
Our sleep patterns do change as we get older. For example, an infant needs 16-18 hours sleep in a 24-hour period, perhaps for growth and development. A teenager often sleep 7-10 hours which is believed to be needed for hormonal changes. The average adult needs 7-8 hours, yet as people get older this gets less.
A good night’s sleep usually restores you–body, mind, and spirit–and provides numerous benefits to keep your body healthy:
- Better concentration and mood
- Enhanced immune system and improved health
- Increased energy levels.
How, then, can you influence your chance of having a good night’s sleep? Here are a few tips:
- Create an inviting space: the right temperature; comfortable mattress, bedding, and pillows; proper lighting (dark is best);
- Create a helpful evening ritual to wind down: a warm bath with a few drops of lavender oil can be calming; listening to soft, relaxing music (certain music is designed to induce sleep);
- Avoid caffeine and alcohol late in the evening or eating spicy foods since this is known to affect sleep rhythms; drink a cup of milk instead (it contains tryptophan which helps you become sleepy);
- Exercise and eat well each day since that contributes to a healthier body and better sleep patterns!
A good night’s sleep helps you keep our body at its healthiest. If you have tried these suggested steps or others, and still have difficulty, seek medical help in discovering what you can do to change your patterns and achieve a sound and consistent night’s sleep.
