Often, clients ask whether or not it is really helpful to explore past unresolved issues. It is okay to question whether going back into the past is pertinent to being in your life right now. I believe that most often it is since the past is often symbolic of the present. The past may hold a trigger or hook as related to your current situation.
Even though you are living right now, it is often helpful to work with feelings about past events. Often painful, unresolved issues affect what is happening in the present. When you work through past issues, it does not mean that you are going back to live in the past. Often when you return to old memories, you will find that something is crying out for release.
A technique that may help you is to allow yourself to go back to a particular painful incident and bring it into your awareness as you sit quietly. State the intention that you will review the incident from the “Witness” standpoint. What if you could hover above the scene and view it? As feelings come up, stay the witness to them. If there are certain issues that feel too painful to move into, they are usually the most pertinent ones that are needing attention. They are also possibly influencing you in ways that you may not suspect in the present. What was the meaning of them in the past? What is the meaning now? How is your current situation like and not like the past?
When you go back into the past, you may or may not gain understanding right away. Most importantly, just allow the feelings to come up and experience and accept them. This will help to integrate the feelings, and understanding will most often occur as a result of integration.
And then there is the question of “When is enough, enough?” If you start to find that there is “power” in your wound, you will hold onto it. That type of power is not true power. So, yes, when you “feel” that you have moved through the feeling (and I think you will know when this occurs), you move on.
Do you try to please everyone? –Try to control everything so as not to meet your fears? –Try to be a superstar at your own expense because, after all, YOU can do it best?
Here are a few tips for living in better balance:
1. Understand that reactionary behavior perpetuates states of imbalance, so instead of quickly reacting, try pausing, thinking things through, and then responding with conscious intention.
2. If you are a human “doing,” anxiety may feel natural. Try relaxing so that you have a reference point for balance.
3. Practice mindfulness in the moment. Be here now. For example, when you wash a dish, truly wash it, feel the soapy water and sponge, without having your mind be somewhere completely different.
4. Focus on your breathing from time to time. You can wear a rubber band on your wrist (assuming you don’t normally do this!) and when you notice it throughout the day, check in with your breathing. Breathe deeply from your lower abdomen and slowly, allowing the breath to relax your body.
5. Challenge your assumptions and beliefs about anything that troubles you. What is really happening in the situation? Let go of ideas that do not serve you.
6. Practice mind-body methods, such as meditation, walking, listening to relaxing music–all of which will calm your spirit and help take you out of the rat-race pace.
By slowing down in general, in a very magical way, you become more focused and less distracted, better able to respond to what is important in your life.
Throughout our lifetime we develop and learn to operate from a sense of our own power. Often major spiritual tests in life involve how we use our power. These spiritual lessons can involve circumstances in which you do not own your own power enough, or when you wield too much power, might involve dominating others.
Personal power is considered a fundamental key to psychological health and spiritual growth. The ideal is to own your own power in a considerate manner never wavering while remaining mindful of love and considerate behavior with others.
So how do you balance the use of your own power?
You want to be sure that you do not give your life to others to make your choices or simply fail to develop your own sense of self and to individuate. Pay attention to the needs of your heart and affirm your own worthiness.
Likewise, you must be cautious about dominating others and must offer them the same respect for their own life that you desire. It is through owning and balancing your personal power that self-mastery over your own energy takes place.
Have you ever needed one seminar that would improve the way you are living your life? One that would help you balance and harmonize your daily living? Here it is!
On Saturday, April 28, 2018, I will be teaching The Art of Living Mindfully in a Busy World, a one day seminar, from 9 a.m. – 4:30 p.m., at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel & Conference Center, Virginia Beach, VA.
In this inspirational workshop full of practical tools and wisdom, you will discover the art of learning how to:
- Calm down and relax (tips on meditation)
- Think productively (how to program your thoughts away from worry and despair)
- Handle your emotions wisely (find balance)
- Communicate effectively (use tools to improve relationships)
- Exercise an open mind, release judgment, and forgive (important for positive change)
- Honor your body and value and manage your energy (necessary for healing)
- Free yourself from pain and trauma (lighten the load of life).
- Methods include lecture, discussion, practical exercises, and hypnotherapy for positive living with prosperity & gratitude.
Program Fee: $165.00 and includes lunch & materials. Early Bird special is $150 until 4/1/18.
REFUND & CANCELLATION POLICY: No refunds after April 10, 2018.
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What is your purpose? You are always discovering your purpose when you ask yourself “Why am I here?” If you ask yourself this question and are still not sure, just look back on your life. You have been fulfilling your purpose your entire life even if you don’t know consciously what your purpose is.
So how do you find out your purpose?
- Your purpose can be summed up in a few short words. It is helpful to start with “I am ________.” If you keep your statement simple, you will remember it and allow it to inspire you. It might become more detailed later but start with simple words.
- Your purpose should indicate direction and movement. For example, “I am a person” may be true, but it doesn’t indicate movement and direction. “I am a loving explorer of life” is closer to describing your purpose.
- Your purpose is not a goal and can never be checked off on a list in the way that a goal can. Your goals are just desires achieved along life’s purpose.
- Your purpose is instead the essence of your life in every moment and you are constantly fulfilling it.
- If your desire is to be loving, but you’ve spent your life in a more begrudging than loving way, you simply need to bring yourself more in alignment with your intended purpose. Pay attention to the times and places that you can CHOOSE to be more loving to others and to yourself.
- When your actions line up with your intentions (purpose), you will find that you move into a state of greater flow and the essence of your life changes.
As for my own experience, I knew early on in life that I was a teacher and seeker of knowledge. I also came to know that I felt most in synch when I sought to raise my own consciousness as I raised the consciousness of others.
While I started my career in an academic setting, I felt that I would realize the best version of myself if I were in a setting that had no outer-imposed limitations. Hence, I have with excitement explored many venues of learning, become an entrepreneur, and hope in this way to bring new ideas to you. My purpose? –I am an inspiration to myself and others. I seek to raise the consciousness of others as I raise my own consciousness, bringing greater love and freedom to all.
Finally, what is your contribution to your world? What is the BEST version of you? Your purpose is to BE the best version of you!
2017 was an incredible year of change! I hope you were inspired and took action to grow personally or professionally. How are you preparing for another powerful year of self-discovery and growth?
At the beginning of the New Year, I often spend an hour or so doing an exercise alone that allows me to reflect with hope as well as provide insight for the coming year. I want to share with you what I do and a method I have used in case this would interest you. I have done this for many years. If you read this after the start of the year, no problem, since this can be done any time of year. It just happens to be a new year’s ritual for me.
You can choose a deck of spiritual cards or another meditative tool.
(1) First, I light a candle and listen to soft music, spending about 10 minutes quietly reflecting on the previous year. I ask that my actions from that year be blessed and purified to seed new actions in the coming year.
(2) Next, I focus on the coming year. Using a chart or written sheet with questions and spaces for answers (people have created neat ways to record), I ask the following questions and draw at least one card per question to see what the “energy” of that question might bring. I then record my answers. I am able throughout the new year to reflect on the questions and cards drawn that I drew in this exercise. Here are the questions I ask and maybe some of these may inspire you:
- What overall energy best describes the teachings for me in 2017?
- What overall energy will best help me in the New Year 2018?
- If (when) faced with challenges for growth in 2018, what is the best energy for me to remember?
- To balance my daily living for 2018, what do I need to remember (regarding doing/being)?
- In order to manifest my heart’s desires for 2018, what energy would be helpful?
- For each month (I list them out), what will give me insight into the energy of that month?
- What energy best reflects the “mental” picture for 2018?
- What energy best reflects the “emotional” picture for 2018?
- What energy best reflects the “physical” picture for 2018?
- What energy best reflects the “spiritual” picture for 2018?
(3) I post this sheet with the completed questions and comments on a bulletin board or back of a door simply to glance at it periodically throughout the year for reflection. (By the way, if you are in a relationship, you can also choose individual as well as joint cards for certain questions.)
I wish you the VERY BEST in 2018 and look forward to a powerful year together. Remember to subscribe to my blog for inspiration and insider information about Heartliving workshops and products.
Many blessings to you in 2018! –With gratitude, Cynthia